Let People Fail

Let People Fail

I’m a big believer that one of the single best things you can do for the ones you love is let them fail! To
deny someone the opportunity to fail is one of the greatest injustices you can do. Besides, without
understanding failure, you can never really appreciate victory.

Allowing children (and adults) the opportunity to learn by trial and error is one of the best ways to
engrain a skill. Please don’t take what I am writing out of context. I am not suggesting that you let your
freshly walking child to roam the highways to learn to fail. But I am suggesting that letting a child
learning to walk fall and not always catching him or her could dramatically increase his or her ability to
learn to walk at an earlier age.

When our little guy was first learning to sit up he had this nasty habit of throwing his head back and
flopping to the ground. This was okay when he was propped up with his nursing pillow because it
cushioned the blow. However, if he was ever sitting on a harder surface, it was a painful experience. In
an effort to help him overcome this, we assisted in letting him fail.

We quickly transitioned from propping him with a nursing pillow to using normal pillows which did not
cushion him as well. The result, nothing changed. So, we went to the next step, let him fail a little bigger.
Instead of a pillow, all he got was a thick blanket on a carpeted surface – definitely harder than pillow,
but still plenty soft that he was going to really hurt himself. However, it needs to be hard enough to
entice him to change his behavior. End result was, it only slightly modified his actions. So, the thick
blanket became a thin blanket – and presto. He was able to fail and realized he didn’t like it. So he
changed his behavior.

If you constantly bail someone out, that person will never learn to fend for themselves. This is not about
tough love. This is about helping people to become independent and playing a role to help empower the
people around you.

Think back to when you were in school writing tests. If you wrote a test and there were 20 questions
and you managed to answer 17 questions correctly – what did you go and review when you got the test
back? If you are like most people, the first thing you did is went to the three questions you got incorrect
to learn not to repeat the mistake for the final exam. Even if you guessed at some of the answers, our
tendency is to go to the ones we got wrong to learn. Don’t deny people the experience of learning from
their mistakes.

Let people fail! All successful people do!

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  • About The 10-80-10 Principle® Pocketbook

    The 10-80-10 Principle® is a framework that was designed to help individuals and groups create maximum performance. The methodology combines best-practices with small wins that allow users to capitalize on success while at the same time reducing and eliminating behaviors that limit successes. This book explains the principle and then gives numerous practical examples of where we can use and observe the principle – everything from elections to losing weight, from mortgages to sales. See the world through a 10-80-10 lens will help you significantly improve your individual and team results.

  • The ABC’s of Student Leadership

    What is Student Leadership all about? How do you become a Student Leader? What resources are available that will help students to proceed, exceed and succeed inleadership roles? The answer to all of these questions and many more can be found in the enjoyable and easy to read The ABCs of Student Leadership book. This book was specifically written to help students take charge of their own lives and start leading themselves. Whether you are looking to lead inside or outside of school this book is a powerful tool that is jam packed with examples, stories and exercises that will all the reader to empower them selves and start to succeed. What do Post-it Notes, bumblebees and Las Vegas casinos have in common? They each remind Sunjay Nath that nothing is impossible! What do you get when you start incorporating processes like the “Mom test” and the “underwear evaluation” into your daily activities? Sunjay thinks they’ll bring you one step closer to being a better student leader! But to be a good leader of others, you must first learn to lead yourself. The ABCs of Student Leadership features nine chapters that will help you fine-tune your own attitudes and skills to do just that. Attitude, Action, Alliance, Balance, Belief, Behavior, Commitment,Change and Character: Sunjay’s collection of wisdom, stories, suggestions and guidelines about these key words will help you get motivated and…get involved. Each chapter includes a Leadership Journal and Exercises section that will help you identify new opportunities for you to grow, stretch your limits, and be the best you can be for yourself and for the people around you-whether you are a member of the chess team, a tuba player for the marching band, or the captain of the soccer team. So go ahead, start reading and leading!

  • Wanted: Meeting Planners Looking For A Funny Keynote Motivational Speaker

    Are You Ready To Work With The Most Laid Back Speaker You Have Ever Worked With? His Keynote Presentations Are Extremely Funny, Highly Motivational And Consistently “Wow” Audiences With His Top Notch Content.

    As A Professional Motivational Speaker, Sunjay Prides Himself On Being Extremely Easy To Work With And His Past Clients Consistently Agree. Having Worked With Over 2000 Events He Realizes A Happy, Stress-Free Meeting Planner Makes Everyone’s Life Easier And Ultimately Creates Greater Value For Attendees Of The Event. Here Some Reasons Meeting Planners Like Having Sunjay Keynote Events:

    • He always meets deadlines
    • He always arrives extremely early
    • He is adaptable and flexible
    • He truly wants to entire event to be a success
    • He has a very simple set up, often only requiring a microphone and an audience
    • He is a funny speaker, a high-content speaker and a motivational speaker – audiences love him and that reflects positively on the organizer of the meeting
    • See links below for program one page descriptions, bio, intros and head shots.’

     

    Selected Past Keynote Clients Include:

    Financial:

    • TD Canada Trust
    • PriceWaterhouseCoopers
    • Scotiabank
    • CAA Insurance
    • Certified General Accountants
    • Financial Management Institute

    Educational Institutions:

    • Harvard University
    • University of Chicago
    • Columbia University
    • McGill University
    • University of Toronto
    • Queen’s University
    • University of Waterloo

    Technology:

    • Research In Motion
    • Communitech
    • Lenovo
    • Ingram Micro
    • Sundex Information Systems
    • FuseNet

    Conferences:

    • Young Parents Forum
    • ASIA Connects
    • Inter-University Liaisons
    • Impact Entrepreneurship
    • People to People
    • Marketing Your Future Government
    • Ministry of Economic Development
    • Ministry of Social Service
    • Department of National Defense
    • City of Markham Parks & Recreation
    • Town of Halton Hills
    • Royal Canadian Mounted Police

    Associations:

    • Project Management Institute
    • Kin Canada
    • Canadian Chiropractic College
    • Canadian Institute of Traveler Counsellors
    • Business Education Council of Niagara
    • Ontario Camping Association

    Corporate:

    • Marriott
    • Domtar
    • Pharmasave
    • Bell Sympatico
    • Linamar
    • Contrans
    • Royal LePage
    • RasGas
  • What Is Consulting?

    Consulting is a complete program comprised of the other elements. A complete corporate leadership training program has the following components:

    • Opening keynote –kick off
    • Assessments and Interviews (with each participant)
    • Coaching
    • Workshops
    • Observation (with coaching)
    • Certification (upon successful completion)

    Our consulting services are for organizations that are looking for a complete end-to-end solution focusing on improving performance and leadership within the organization. We are very selective of the organizations we work with in order to achieve maximum results.

    A consulting program is a combination of the other delivery methods with an overarching strategic focus. Consulting programs run between several months and several years.

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  • From The Platform

    This is an experiential approach to improving Speaking Skills. The From the Platform workshop focuses on four main components of effective presentations; basics, rules, content and application with an experiential approach. Participants will be given exercises to practice and enhance their presentations skills throughout the sessions.

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  • The Number One Thing That Holds Us Back

    This workshop builds part of the foundation to the 10-80-10 Principle®. If we acknowledge the way our personal bias forms our opinions and biases, we can easily be trapped by our own limiting beliefs.

    The goal of this session is to help move people from Impossible to Possible. This is done by bringing to surface some of the ways our own assumptions lead to our personal biases. Once we are aware of this, we can learn to question the rules and boundaries, which are often self-imposed. By questioning the barriers and re-approaching from a different perception we can make what was once impossible, possible.

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  • The 10-80-10 Principle®

    The 10-80-10 Principle® is a framework that allows you to increase your performance and results by focusing your energy and efforts on highest yielding activities. The Principle was created by Sunjay Nath and it help individuals and teams operate at a dynamic level.

    Every person or group already exhibits behaviors that are Top 10 (percent) – those behaviors that lead to high performance and achievement. What people lack is the knowledge to consistently operate at that dynamic Top 10 level. The 10-80-10 Principle® rewards and grows Top 10 behaviors and eliminates Bottom 10 actions.

    Engaging Hands on, Sunjay Nath works with the audience to identify their Top and Bottom 10 and then A.C.T. with the 10-80-10 Principle® to create greater performance levels in their lives, or within the organization. The 10-80-10 Principle® is sought after around the globe by businesses and organizations through Keynotes, Workshops, Coaching and on a Consulting basis.

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